When Your Family is Anti-feminist
Growing up in the household I did, I was taught that I can do anything I put my mind to, and that I can be whatever I want to be. I’m so thankful for the parents and sister that I have. They’re empowering, open-minded – simply the best. It didn’t really occur to me that my whole family wasn’t like this until I started to get involved in politics and heavily utilize social media.
Now, I respect people with political views that are different than my own. That’s the beauty of it all. You can take all of your personal beliefs, morals, values and apply them to something bigger than yourself. I can’t deny, though, that it does completely suck to see some of my family members making Facebook posts showing their intense support for Brett Kavanaugh, or their criticism of non-Republican voters. The other day a (female) family member posted a meme that compared the Chevrolet logo to a sanitary pad and it said something along the lines of “this is how you know Chevrolet cars are ‘weak’”. Sorry, what?
I feel like, regardless of your stance, you should have the empathy to say this might not be my reality; this isn’t something that I have experienced, but there are people out there – fellow human beings – who have, and therefore I’m going to be more sensitive to that. It’s hard, because these ideas are becoming very influential to the young girls in my family. I wonder if they agree with everything or if they too feel the shame of older relatives shunning a sexual assault survivor or a powerful woman trying to make a difference in the world.
Unfortunately, I don’t have an end-all-be-all solution to things like this. Acceptance and distance help, but when it comes to family, things do become a bit more complex. I would love to know if anyone is or has went through a similar experience. Let’s talk!
By: Juliana Eden