Let's Talk About Sex
Let’s talk about sex, shall we?
There’s sex everywhere nowadays. It is glorified but is it explained?
Let’s be honest, for some people it is scary.
So here, we will debunk some sex myths for you ladies =)
Losing my virginity only happens when there’s penetration with a penis. Virginity is a social construct. You’re the one who decides when you lose it. It can be with a woman or a man, you can lose it while doing oral sex or using toys or while fingering.
You can’t get pregnant if you have your period, it’s your first time, you pull out, you are in certain positions, by rinsing with water after or using a douche. False, false false. 99% of women use some sort of contraception.
It’s supposed to bleed and hurt your first time. No not necessarily, it can but it doesn’t have to. If after a couple times it still does, you should go see your doctor. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong, you might just need to exercise your pelvic area more. About 30 percent of women and seven percent of men report mild pain during sexual intercourse.
Everyone is having sex. Not really no, the average age of first sexual intercourse is 17. But there is still people who decide to wait until they are in their twenties or thirties. No stress darling, you do you.
Everyone orgasms. Men only orgasm around 80% of the time during sexual intercourse while 70% of women rarely or ever orgasm (so only 20-30% do orgasms). Talking about what you like will help both of you to orgasm together. Some women attain orgasm through the G-spot, clitoris stimulation, breast massage etc. You can try using vibrators or multimedia to get you there if it helps. You can also guide your partner.
Sex should take between 5-7 minutes. Again, false. For most people it takes between 10 to 20 minutes. It doesn’t have to be quick, but it can be if you want it to.
I don’t have a sex drive, I might be asexual. Medication can lower your sex drive, such as antidepressants or the pill. A lot comes into play, such as stress, trust, affection, mood etc. And maybe, you’re not with right person.
Everyone is hooking up. Men have in average 6 partners in their lifetime and women about 3-4. About 50% of guys haven’t had sex in the last year. Forty percent of the women in the study said they had experienced a hook-up. One in 10 reported having done so more than six times. But no, not everyone hookup.
Most people are in an open relationship. Close to half of the population would consider an open relationship but 45% would also leave if their partner would want an open relationship. Also, it’s important to remember that an open relationship is not the same thing as cheating. There’s boundaries and limits to respect, there’s communication and trust, honesty is the key. Both partner are aware of what you can and can’t do. If you are considering it, you need to respect each other and to respect what makes the other uncomfortable. You shouldn’t do it for your partner but because you both want to.
Anal sex is just for gays. Actually, close to 40% of women have had anal sex. What is important is what you’re comfortable with.
Everyone has oral sex. No, only 60% of people have had oral sex in the last year.
The size matters. Not really, everyone can have preferences but at the end of the day it’s all about communication and stimulation. The average length of a penis is 3.6 inches when flaccid and 5.16 inches when erect. Girth in these two states averages 3.7 inches and 4.6 inches.
Only guys watch porn. Around 25% to 50% of porn watchers are female.
Most people do BDSM. 5 to 10 percent engages in sadomasochism, around 11 percent of men and 17 percent of women reported trying bondage, 20 percent use masks, blindfolds, and bondage tools during sex. 85% of people had engaged in some kind of light BDSM.
About 110 Million People Have STDs, so remember, get checked!
Oh and sex addiction is a real thing, if it causes you problems, don’t be ashamed to ask for help.
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